- things you weren’t ready to let go of, that needed to be released,
- things you were striving for, but didn’t need,
- things that were going in the wrong direction, and couldn’t turn back,
- those heartbreaking truths you didn’t feel ready to face,
- things that needed to be broken apart before you could put them back together,
- “if you intend to rise from the ashes, first you have to burn”,
- life-saving failures.
If at first you don’t succeed; experimental failures:
- failures on purpose, to test an assumption,
- fast, frequent failures as a method of learning,
- worthy efforts that nonetheless didn’t create results,
- each of Edison’s “10,000 ways that won’t work”,
- the beautiful long shots you were betting everything on,
- the calculated risks that were worth it for the possibility of success,
- the attempt that didn’t quite pan out, but might be worth another try.
- lessons you’d already learned,
- predictable defeats,
- those things you never really wanted, that should have been on your to-don’t list,
- patterns of failure that you don’t learn from,
- the failure to trust your instincts; to accept your own wisdom.
The missed opportunity of failing to be fully present.
Surface failures that cover deeper failures:
- dropping balls because you’re too busy, because you overcommitted, because you forgot to take your own needs seriously,
- miscommunication that talks past a deeper conflict that has never been resolved,
- failing by default through not really trying, because of fearing failure.
& those things that can feel like failures, but aren’t:
- imperfect offerings that are good enough for now,
- awkwardness that is human and charming,
- a heart that’s too wide open.
(For my friends at Fail Club. A work in progress.)